Send Flowers or Gifts
Send a Sympathy Card

Born: December 21, 1951

Place of Birth: Paterson, NJ

Death: October 27, 2012

Place of Death: Poway, CA

Occupation: Attorney

This memorial provided by:
Poway-Bernardo Mortuary
Poway, CA

Wesley Nelson Fach

    December 21, 1951  -  October 27, 2012
Send Flowers

Life Legacy

Wes Fach was born December 21, 1951, in Paterson, New Jersey, the oldest child of Wesley Nelson Fach, Sr., and Barbara Lund Davis. He is survived by three sisters, Karen Rosebush, Susan Graef, and Martha Armstrong, and one brother, Randall Fach. His brother Jonathan predeceased him. He married his high school sweetheart, Victoria Mary Grant, after graduating from Harvard and before he graduated from Columbia Law School. They have six incredible children, Nicole Son, Lake Balboa, CA; Rebecca Larrabure, Vista, CA; Amelia Dowhower, West St. Paul, MN; Bonnie Allen, Calgary, Alberta, Canada; Julia Underwood, of Vilseck, Germany; Christopher Fach, Poway, CA; as well as 15 amazing grandchildren. Both Wes and Christopher (Kit) were Eagle Scouts, and active in Troop 680 of Rancho Bernardo, CA. Wes practiced law almost until he died, and was grateful that in Southern California, he was able to work for biotech and pharmaceutical companies that were dedicated to helping people heal.
Wes and Vicki made a Worldwide Marriage Encounter Weekend July 10-12, 1981, and it was a turning point for them as they discovered a ministry to strengthen the Sacraments of Matrimony and Holy Orders to which they would devote more than half their lives. They gave Marriage Encounter Weekends, served in leadership in San Diego, and coordinated the 2008 International Worldwide Marriage Encounter Convention, working with couples and priests from around the the world, English, Spanish, and Korean speaking. They wrote a loveletter to each other every day for over 29 years, and the intimacy and depth of their communication with each other carried them through the challenges of living with Wes's terminal illness.
When he was diagnosed with neuro-endocrine cancer, the survival rate for 6 months was considered to be 5%. He beat those odds, living long enough to see his 15th grandchild on Skype in Germany, and to enter the Year of Faith proclaimed by Pope Benedict XVI, a virtue he lived intensely during his illness. With all his family and friends he prayed for a miraculous healing, but his prayer always concluded, "Not my will but thine be done." He told his son-in-law that he dreaded the day he could no longer get to Sunday Mass, since he had never missed Sunday Mass since he became a Catholic at 19. But God arranged that when he could no longer get out of bed, he died on Saturday, clothed in the brown scapular, just before the Novena of the Holy Souls, and he never did miss Mass. His courage and cheerfulness despite pain and constant setbacks were a source of strength and encouragement to others, and his holy death on October 27, 2012, surrounded by his family at home, with friends praying and singing outside, was a beacon of light and hope of eternal life.